Self-Delusion & Toilet Bowls

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Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms.
Elizabeth Bowen

Not long ago, I was on a call with a client I deeply respect and an individual that has, through our years of work together, become a friend. He is a Regional Vice President and an individual I would easily describe as a benchmark of leadership and management. He has created superior results consistently over several decades in a cut-throat industry personified by more of an ethos of “eat or be eaten” than a philosophy of shared successes. He is one of those rare leaders that you could pick up and drop in almost any industry and would most likely find equal renowned and success given enough time.

On our bi-weekly call, I asked him what he wanted to throw on the agenda, and his response was something I had heard from other professionals at least a thousand times before. “Everything is going extremely well, but I still can’t find a consistent work-life balance.” I listened more and then asked him if I could be candid with him. His response was, “Of course.” I told him, “Walk into the bathroom, close the stall, and drop a full can of soda into the toilet. Observe the splash and then watch how long it takes for the water to return to calm. The amount of time for the splash to subside and the ripples of the water to return to normal is how long you will be missed when you retire or when you resign.” He took it in with no response. Then I piled it on heavier, “You don’t really matter, not really. You are replaceable, and any handful of leaders could step up and take your job immediately.” I then added the finale, the final coup de grace, and then plunged the dagger in deeper, “Until you realize you don’t really matter, only then will you give yourself permission to live. You can accept that message now or learn this lesson when you retire, either way, no one is as enamored with you as you are. Make your decisions accordingly.” Another long pause, and then he laughed and said, “That is the best advice you have ever given me.”

One of the quickest tactics to destroy and permanently handicap the mental game of a young leader is to provide them with responsibilities that they possess neither the experience nor maturity to fittingly handle. The mantle is heavy, and the burden can be crushing. It is precisely the reason newly commissioned officers are rarely placed on the front lines of a battle or amateurs made a new head coach in Division I athletic programs. It is not that the innate talent or intelligence is deficient or the capacity for charisma and influence is missing. It is because the inevitable failures and setbacks associated with leading people will chafe, blister, and only by way of time will they callous. Responsibility assigned too soon can permanently damage a leader, not because they will make mistakes….but because they assuredly remain under the delusion of their own grandeur and their own tales of infallibility. A pursuit of perfection and flawless execution will destroy a young leader, not because it is possible, but because when they buy into their own myth, the failures associated with it will eventually destroy them. Rare the young superhero that battles a villain or their arch nemesis and rises unscathed if they believe Gotham’s fate rests solely upon them. If the young superhero fails to encounter their arch nemesis or their Yoda, they will often rise to a place of prominence best defined as tyranny or megalomania.

Our own self-importance muddies relationships and followability, erodes our impact and limits our ability to actually see the bigger picture beyond our own self-constructed narcissism. And then, the death knell rings for the leader….there is no longer a perspective that any further growth is necessary.

When we eventually become the centerpiece of our own story or the master of our own world, the only individuals who bow, are the ones who see you as a means to an end; a resource of their own attempts to build a kingdom. And then you learn the inevitable painful lesson. Your own kingdom was breached not because you were not cautious, but because the previous worshippers were willing to sing your song and play your music until they had enough of you and your help to build their own. Choose your worshipper(s) wisely.

Chasing Rabbits

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“If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one.” – Russian Proverb

Playing the galactically obvious “card” and intentionally being “that guy,” if one endeavors to chase three or four rabbits, instead of two, the results will be equally dismal. Makes total sense, does it not? A first grader fundamentally understands the futility of such an endeavor, but we continually disregard the logic in our professional and personal endeavors and then wonder why we cannot reach any reasonable aspirations beyond average. If the proverb’s intent is unclear, rabbits do not like to be caught, and they certainly will not be if one refuses to make a decision and decide on the one they will pursue. Achievement and accomplishment are rarely any different. Achievement and accomplishment get all the attention because we associate worth with a reasonable level of it, but when you really think about it, anything that diverts your attention, forces you or your organization to ultimately shrink and tempers focus and energy.

In the book, “4 Disciplines of Execution: Achieving Your Wildly Important Goals” authors Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling offer a straightforward table that is worth a thousand words (and two-million dollars). The visual correlates the “number of goals” (in addition to all the other things that have to be done in a day) with “Goals Achieved with Excellence” – In short, two to three goals provides two to three goals achieved with excellence. Four to ten goals, one or two goals achieved with excellence. And finally, eleven to twenty goals, ZERO goals achieved with excellence.

Consider this principle at play when the measuring stick is “world-class” or being in the top 1%. If you chase two rabbits, two dreams, two jobs, two hobbies, you cannot expect to be world-class in either. It is very likely why the exhortation from Orison Swett Marden was so incredibly poignant, “Every great man has become great, every successful man has succeeded, in proportion as he has confined his powers to one particular channel.”

We all know Marden’s assertion is intuitively true, but we also know the consequences of focusing on one thing inevitably requires risk. And so as it is with every Olympian, Nobel Prize Winner, CEO, record holder, Heisman winner, or entrepreneur; fully realized potential requires one principal macro-decision. And that decision is how great, or average or sub-par one chooses to be. World-class performance, company profitability, and winning is nothing more than series of consistent choices directed at achieving that end. But again, so is failure. For anyone to blame anything else, such as chance, luck, or natural “this or that,” will comprehensively disqualify them from ever stepping into the ring. If anything else is relied upon, turn in the keys, cash in the chips, the game is over before it even begins.

Luciano Pavarotti, the once in a century tenor that went on to become one of the greatest tenors in history, if not, ever; is a superb example of this concept at play. Most individuals will say Pavarotti was born with world class ability, he was born with it, end of story. Think again, in reflecting on his childhood he writes, “When I was a boy, my father, a baker, introduced me to the wonders of song,” tenor Luciano Pavarotti relates. “He urged me to work very hard to develop my voice. Arrigo Pola, a professional tenor in my hometown of Modena, Italy, took me as a pupil. I also enrolled in a teacher’s college. On graduating, I asked my father, ‘Shall I be a teacher or a singer?’ “‘Luciano,’ my father replied, ‘if you try to sit on two chairs, you will fall between them. For life, you must choose one chair.’ “I chose one. It took seven years of study and frustration before I made my first professional appearance. It took another seven to reach the Metropolitan Opera. And now I think whether it’s laying bricks, writing a book–whatever we choose–we should give ourselves to it. Commitment, that’s the key. Choose one chair.” (Guidepost)

The 1%

 

Eureka2.pngThe term, “the one percent” has become synonymous with exceptional individuals who surpass their peers, their friends, and their colleagues in whatever endeavor they set their intention and energies to. These human aberrations opt for the uphill climb, their “normal” counterparts choose the slippery, downhill path of least resistance. One-percenters know the arduous and welcome the hard. They opt for the taxing and give up their late nights and early mornings. They choose to live a life less ordinary, pay the price and awake to a life that only resided in the blueprint of their mind.

While the other ninety-nine percent absolutely envision “the life,” they know neither where the trailhead begins or why it should be traveled. Many try but find they just cannot sustain the grind. And then the inevitable occurs, compromise or worse, absolute surrender. Little wonder Henry David Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats.”

It is not a conscious choice to be unexceptional. It is a consequence of fear and the avoidance of failure as if it’s a personal indictment on their potential or even worse, themselves. The concerns with what people will think dull the pain of stalemate and then, the inevitability of settling in for a life of making it work ensues. The other ninety-nice percent’s clarion song is, “what if I fail?” Their dogma is a note of caution to children and friends to not risk too much and their illustrations are those who run straight into the fire and inevitably get burned.

The question for all of us is not if you will fail. Failure is a law and an absolute inevitability. The question only is, will you fail in small stumbles, or will you mortgage a life because you failed decisively and picked up the mantle of “making the best of it.”  For thousands of years, humanity has sought the secret of the vast differentiator between the “haves and have nots” – The answer, while elusive, is simple. It is whether the desire outweighs the pain associated with making it happen. It is not any more complicated than this. Desire is potential’s most reliable foreshadow.

Abraham Maslow, after prodigiously studying and interviewing the highest achievers of his time, summed up his discoveries with a beautiful but haunting conclusion, “Musicians must make music, artists must paint, poets must write if they are to be ultimately at peace with themselves. What human beings can be, they must be. They must be true to their own nature. This need we may call self-actualization.”  Marcus Aurelius, the epitome of the warrior-poet of the ancient world wrote, “Everything – a horse, a vine – is created for some duty… For what task, then, were you yourself created? A man’s true delight is to do the things he was made for.” And finally, Ralph Waldo Emerson inserted the Maraschino cherry on top of it all by reminding us, “God will not have his work made manifest by cowards.” And it is at this place, a decision of cowardice or intentioned resolve that dictates the choice that will either send us careening into mediocrity or toward what it is that makes us eventually come alive.  Perhaps Emerson was right.

The Anti-Hedge

 “Research suggests that once a musician had enough ability to get into a top music school, the thing that distinguishes one performer from another is how hard he or she works. That’s it. And what’s more, the people at the very top don’t work just harder or even much harder than everyone else. They work much, much harder.” – Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers

Malcom Gladwell’s quote above aptly links meaningful levels of achievement with substantial hard work. There simply is no other formula for achievement, nor shortcuts to differentiation.  No individual who has made a mark on our history or found themselves on the front cover of some magazine has fallen backward into that position of renown or influence. Albeit an icon for many, especially us runners, Forrest Gump, falling backward into renown works in Hollywood and fairy tales, but it only works there. Hard work, razor-honed talent, and an incessant commitment to work is the key. Like it or not, prodigious work is the compulsory initial step.

Several years ago, I sat down over coffee with a man I respect. In this conversation over exorbitantly priced coffee and desserts I cannot pronounce, he stated, “If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life.” I care about this man, so I smiled and acknowledged his statement. The thought that came to my mind was, “Hey Forrest, life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get, but rest assured, what drops in your in your lap will almost always require a napkin.” But judiciousness and civilized deportment won the day, and I took another sip of my overpriced coffee and bit my tongue in the name of brotherhood.

Let’s all get honest and make a collective admission here. Mere mortals and yours truly, would often rather sit down on a warm Sunday afternoon and take in the sun, catch a game, or even take a nap. In fact, I have personally learned to use sophisticated words and philosophies to excuse and justify my enjoyment of the “good life.” Nevertheless, you allow me to pursue a dream or a goal and this Sunday afternoon sloth transforms into a relentless, workaholic, crazy man. Is it the hard work that creates this internal burn and passion? Not a chance. But the vision unmistakably does. Steve Jobs, Founder, CEO, and the previous generation’s greatest visionary nailed it when he said, “If you are working on something exciting that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.” A simple but irrefutable truth that if grasped, will utterly transform how you approach life.

We all intuitively understand that there is nothing more dangerous or intimidating than backing someone into a corner or pushing them to “a point of no return.” Energies, focus, and commitment previously laid dormant, ignites into an unbendable resolve that is simply unstoppable. Take for example, Julius Caesar. In 49 BC, Julius Caesar crossed the Rubicon, marched into Italy and violated nearly every code that had been established by the Roman Senate to protect their authority and rule. Army’s had to be disbanded before entering Italy. For whatever reason, Julius Caesar decided to cross the invisible line of treason and its grounds for execution and standing on the edge of the Rubicon, stated, “Alea iacta est”, “the die is cast.” At the edge of the Rubicon, the point of return was cast, and both figuratively and literally, he prepared his men for a battle they simply could not lose. Why? Because he had to win, there was simply no alternative. Had he marched his men into Italy and been deterred, he would have been executed or at best, arrested. The Rubicon was Julius Caesar’s point of no return, and he played it masterfully.

In 1519, Hernando Cortes, packed up his gear, boarded a ship and led an armada to the shores of Veracruz, Mexico with the intent of expanding the Spanish colonization of the Americas. The environment was harsh, riddled with disease, and to make matters worse, a committed native opposition who had found themselves backed into a corner, committed to holding their homeland. Suffice it to say, the prospects for Cortes did not look bright. Morale among his men was low and more than a handful were intent on leaving the island. Knowing the prospects of success, Cortes did what any normal person would do [insert sarcasm here], he destroyed the ships and in doing so, eliminated all hope of escape or returning home. Confronting the overwhelming odds and the psyche of his men, he did the only logical thing possible; he eliminated any alternative to victory. Retreat and a safe passage home were no longer viable. In ordering the destruction of the ships, he backed his men into a corner, and they somehow found the resolve and focus to finish the mission.

The simple message of these tales of conquest is simple. Our beliefs regarding what is possible, dictate what is possible. Nothing more, nothing less. Your own visions or the visions of the organization must be more than compelling enough, as well as its consequences for failure, to push people (or yourself) into the corner and create an outcome. But for most mere mortals, the fact of the matter is that we are not lazy, inept, or incompetent…. We are simply too fearful of failure and lack the courage to “go all in.” It is called timidity, it’s the ride of the coward, and that my friends, is why you are not living the life or leading the organization you know is possible. Impact and influence first begin with the ability to simply say, “Alea iacta es” – The die is cast, now go burn the ships. Until that call is made, cash it in, leave the table and pass on the torch to someone who is.

 

 

 

Kaizen Or Habits of the Has Been

“An amateur has amateur habits. A professional has professional habits.
We can never free ourselves from habits. The human being is a creature of habit.” – Steven Pressfield. “Turning Pro”

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One spring Sunday in early 2002, I watched Tiger Woods absolutely dominate his field of competitors on Augusta National Golf Club, home to the annual golf tournament, the “Masters.” Following yet another victory, a reporter asked Tiger a question around how he maintains such a high level of performance and dominance. His answer was simple and rather nonchalant given what he had just accomplished, winning his third Masters since 1997. “I just try to improve 1% every day.” In terms of context, at the same time, I was developing a corporate change and innovation model for my doctoral dissertation and wrestling with why corporate change failures continued to top 70% and 90% failure rates for initiatives requiring cultural changes. I had chosen to be lazy and watch golf instead of working on my dissertation. I should chalk the discovery up to laziness; I had my eureka moment. I sat up in my recliner and said, “That’s it.” My personal Holy Grail had been discovered, and only a couple of my fellow nerds would have given a rip – so I did not share it with anyone. So, I decided to relish in my discovery, take a nap, and put my dissertation off for yet another day.

Evidently, Tiger’s strategy worked, at 2017, he has won 14 major championships, only second to Jack Nicklaus’s 18, 79 PGA Tour events, only second to Sam Snead’s 82 wins. Despite his recent decline, some sports writers claim he is the greatest golfer that has ever lived. Benjamin Franklin once said, “Little strokes fell great oaks.” While I highly suspect he was not referring to golf, Ben was precisely correct. Little things done every day eventually culminates into radical advancement.

The origins of incremental improvements, albeit the law of nature and life, did not find its prominence until the Japanese integrated the idea into their philosophy of Kaizen. The Kaizen philosophy, roughly translated as “change for the better” or “continuous improvement” was introduced by and large by American business management theorists  in the rebuilding of Japan’s business infrastructures decimated in the Second World War.

Kaizen found prominence in Toyota and lost notoriety outside of Japan until Toyota began dominating the auto industry and drove American theorists to begin to reassess this old philosophy when the American ideology of radical improvement began to crumble. In short, the philosophy of Kaizen hinges upon small, incremental, never-ending improvement of anything. It is a philosophy of mastery that never ends as perfection cannot be achieved. George Leonard, a fifth-degree black belt in Aikido, summed up the spirit of Kaizen in his 1992 book, “Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment” with, “We fail to realize that mastery is not about perfection. It is about a process, a journey. The master is the one who stays on the path day after day, year after year. The master is the one who is willing to try, and fail, and try again, for as long as he or she lives.” Leonard understood the notion of Kaizen exceptionally well as mastering Aikido takes decades of consistent training and development.

The key to mastery is very small improvements each and every day that will begin take form gradually, and over time, gradual improvements begin to compound on one another, and you eventually get radical change without the resistance normally associated with significant changes or new endeavors.

In its simplest form, habits, done daily incorporates the genius of Kaizen into tangible, practical application. As Steven Pressfield so insightfully forwarded, “Amateurs have amateur habits. Professionals have professional habits.” As with all things, the choice is yours. So choose wisely…your ultimate outcome and impact will hinge upon it.

Misery and the Lesson of the Phoenix 

“Sooner of later we all go through a crucible, most believe there are two types of people that go into a crucible.  The ones who grow stronger from the experience and survive it, and the ones who die. But there is a third type, the ones who love to learn the fire. Who stay in their crucible because it is easier to endure the pain because it is all you know anymore. “ —Sebastion Blood in Arrow

Paulo Coelho’s 1998 novel, “Veronika Decides to Die” centers on a Slovenian woman in her mid-twenties that appears to have all any young lady would desire: She is immensely beautiful, successfully employed, and the prospects of a fruitful and happy life were hers. Even so, she makes the decision to end her own life. She is unsuccessful and instead wakes up in a mental hospital. Veronika encounters Dr. Igor, and her exodus begins.

Dr. Igor is conducting experiments on patients where they are told they only have a short time to live and looking at the prospects of death, Igor “shocks” patients back to life. Veronika unknowingly becomes one of his test cases.  During this process, she encounters an individual ravaged with panic attacks, another with severe clinical depression, and yet another with schizophrenia. The interface and relationships with these people lead to a resuscitation for Veronika. She awakens to a new world where she realizes she no longer has anything to prove, no pressure to perform, no overwhelming sense of judgment – she had attempted to take her own life, woke up locked away in a mental institution and ironically, finally came alive. Misery became her way out.

What is it about the prospect of losing our own lives, the crushing trials that increase the perceived value of life as a whole? The crushing leads to purity and in the purity, life emerges for what it was intended to be. Little wonder that Pierre Corneille wrote, “When there is no peril in the fight there is no glory in the triumph.” Anything worth having is difficult and thus, worth fighting for. Partly because of its value, but perhaps, partly because we refuse to run back into the crucible where it was formed in the first place.

Like it or not, misery is a highly skilled and unsympathetic tutor

Aeschylus, an author of many of the famous Greek tragedies writes, “Wisdom alone comes from suffering.” He also expands this, “Out of suffering arises learning; out of learning, knowledge. We may say of pain that we have grasped it only when we know it not only in itself but in what proceeds from it. As so many other things, pain too is known only by its fruits.” Aeschylus made a living writing Greek tragedies and clearly had a firm enough grasp of its virtues to make his mark on history (as well as pay his mortgage). The Greeks understood the crucible well. They had a notion of regeneration and rebirth centered around a persistently stubborn bird known only as the “Phoenix” – In the myth, the Phoenix plummets to the earth and is incinerated only to rise from the ashes renewed and equipped to live out another life cycle.

Today, understanding the razor’s margin between failure and the ability to rise renewed is a significant and grave consideration for individuals looking to differentiate themselves. Actually, the life we long to live is just on the other side of misery and trial. The story of the Phoenix provides a lesson all individuals must understand if they ever intend to climb out. The lesson is not only instructive, but it is also universal. The relative rise of this winged and interminable creature provided a model of longing in the ancient world. Even Shakespeare incorporates the story of the Phoenix into his Henry VII. Pessimists and small-minded individuals may contend the Phoenix was mythology because nothing rises from the ashes, I tend to think the construct has lasted because we intuitively know the longing to overcome persists despite its distress. Greek tragedies and mythology through the centuries have been instructive – to understand the human experience is to begin to understand the stories and experiences the Greeks were attempting to illustrate in their mythology. The lesson of the Phoenix is simple, no one and nothing in nature is immune from its touch. The universal nature of the value of trials transcends history, geography, species, age, the poor and the affluent.

Like the Phoenix, Veronika under the tutelage of a wise physician, has little left to lose and eventually rises….renewed (and better for have taken the fall).  If the ancient Greeks, birds, tragedies or mental illness doesn’t turn your crank, maybe something more modern will. Vince Lombardi, the head football coach of the Green Bay Packers perhaps had a little something for mythology or tragedies as he was known for his famous saying, It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up.” Or perhaps Muhammed Ali had a similar affinity for tales of birds, “You don’t lose if you get knocked down, you lose if you stay down.”

The question may remain as to why this understanding is so pivotal in the creation of differentiation and the distinction between the world-class and the average. Akin to gold and silver, the highest levels of purity can only be extracted through fire-assay, the process of using extreme temperatures to separate the precious metal from the slack or waste; it is required to cultivate its inimitable value. Without it, its potential value will never come to full fruition.

After working with nearly a thousand leaders and studying the characteristics of the champions, I have learned that what makes the world-class so rare is their unnatural, almost assured willingness to walk into the fire and persist there. Their secrets are less the ones hidden on the walls of some ancient cave or some guru, they are the people who are willing to do what others will not do and in the process, learn to love the fire. Perhaps, this is why Emerson once wrote, “God will not have his work manifest by cowards.”

The Goal of Misery

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Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. 

Khalil Gibran

In order to understand the nature and character of the warrior, all one needs to do is observe their scars and discern the nature of the furnace in which they were forged or within the crucible where they were hardened. Only then will you know all that is required to contend with them.

Mahatma Gandhi’s life is a template for the crucible, a prototype for the value of the “ordeal” and the “near-breaking” that precedes greatness. Gandhi grew up a timid, shy child and went on to non-violently oppose the British empire. His indelible mark on India will remain within the annals of India’s story and his chief role in turning back England’s encroachment on India. One quote of Gandhi’s provides all the answers we need to know. He once stated, “I Love Storms.”  Perhaps he really did love the storms. What we do know is that he certainly became “the storm.” How else does a shy, reticent boy defy an empire like Great Britain?

If you want to understand the psychological DNA behind the greats, you need to look no further than their story, their wounds, and grasp the origin of their scars. Suffering, strain, and testing are achievement’s compulsory application. You cannot have one without the other.  Soldiers will not unconditionally follow an untested commander into battle until they know he has been through the fire.  Why is this? The fact of the matter is that we were actually built for suffering, misery, and setbacks. The mind and body were designed to harden as a result of trauma – the body responds with resiliency and strength as a direct outcome. Muscles are built through micro-tears and broken bones are stronger than their unbroken counterparts. Nature is no different, trees grow stronger in wind. J. Willard Marriott, founder of Marriott Hotels once uttered, “Good timber does not grow with ease; the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees.”

Little wonder that one of Gandhi’s pupils, Dr. Martin Luther King wrote, ” Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.” The context of King’s statement was justice, but the process is the same – it is ubiquitous in humans and in nature.

A further example, take Earl Nightingale and his experience at the Great Barrier Reef.  The Great Barrier Reef stretches nearly 1800 miles from New Guinea to Australia. Noticing that the coral polyps on the inside of the reef, where the sea was tranquil and quiet in the lagoon, appeared pale and lifeless… while the coral on the outside of the reef, subject to the surge of the tide and power of the waves, were bright and vibrant with splendid colors and flowing growth… Earl Nightingale asked why this was so. ‘It’s very simple,’ came the reply, ‘the coral on the lagoon-side dies rapidly with no challenge for growth and survival… while the coral facing the surge and power of the open sea, thrives and multiplies because it is challenged and tested every day. And so it is with every living organism on earth.’”

Want to live a life that matters? Run into the storm…the rewards will be abundant.

 

Leadership & The Self-Absorbed

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On July 14, 1789, French laborers, farmhands, and citizens along with members of the French guard stormed and overtook the power core of the monarchy. In a rapid and aggressive advance, the citizens of France stormed the Bastille, demanded their rights and began the process of winning back their dignity. This rag-tag band of revolutionaries was driven by a deprivation fomented by not only an insatiability and desperation brought on by starvation but by a blood lust to bring down King Louis XVI of France. The citizens of France, empowered by rage and emboldened by wrongs, set their sights on justice.  And in that process, enflamed an engine and ignited the French Revolution; a societal upheaval that would not end without the head of the monarch.

What started at the Bastille, finally ended on December 11, 1792, with an indictment on the king. “Louis, the French people accuses you of having committed a multitude of crimes in order to establish your tyranny by destroying its liberty.” Concluding the somber, royal denunciation of the king’s influence, historian E.L. Higgins recounts the turn of the events, “the executioners seized him, the knife struck him, his head fell at fifteen minutes after ten. The executioners seized it by the hair, and showed it to the multitude, whose cries of ‘Long live the Republic!’ resounded to the very bosom of the Convention.”

No more than a month later, in the Proclamation of the Convention to the French people, tyranny’s end came simply, “Citizens, the tyrant is no more” a proclamation that reverberated through the streets of France. The leader lost his head, his followers laid down their weapons and recaptured their dignity and etched a small lesson in history’s annals; the tale of a followership who took down a king.

Humpty dumpty sat on a wall,

Humpty dumpty had a great fall;

Threescore men and threescore more,

Could not place Humpty as he was before.

Howard Zinn, an American historian, author, and social activist writes, “The memory of oppressed people is one thing that cannot be taken away, and for such people, with such memories, revolt is always an inch below the surface.” Zinn strikes at the heart of the leadership problem, its followership and their ability to reveal a leader’s core and misappropriation of its power.   Zinn’s insight begs the question of where are the leaders who don’t oppress, but rather beckon followership by their leadership qualities? We know there are hordes of “actors” posing as leaders but what about leaders who we can trust.

I was recently asked by an executive in oil, “How do you pick future leaders?” I said, “There are dozens of factors, but if I had to say one thing, look for the guys who can step out of the center or limelight and still influence…there you will find your future executives. He asked, “why?” “Because if history has proven anything, it is that given enough time, individuals will not tolerate being discarded. True leaders understand this rather unbecoming trait of us all and are willing to elevate their people and ‘serve’ this need in order to transform both the individual as well as the organization.” The level of a leader’s self-absorption is directly correlated to their ability to influence a following.

The root of almost every toxic and impotent leader is their inability to place their follower’s needs above their own.  We have wrestled with this notion for well over 2,000 years and yet we remain almost solely inept in leading from a place of sufficiency in order to allow our followers to flourish. Our exaggerated self-worth repels longevity, followership, and an ability to influence a mass that are equally unable to see beyond their own self-interests…therefore, revolt lies just below the surface. We can either change humanity or accept the responsibility of true leadership [You matter when your people do].

 

The Simple and Undeniable Prerequisite to Exceptional Achievement

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Inspiration is for amateurs  -Chuck Close

The actor, producer, rapper, songwriter Will Smith, in an interview with Tavis Smiley responding to a question to what he attributes his success:

“The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be out-worked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things: You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple, right? You’re not going to out-work me. It’s such a simple, basic concept. The guy who is willing to hustle the most is going to be the guy that just gets that loose ball. The majority of people who aren’t getting the places they want or aren’t achieving the things that they want in this business is strictly based on hustle. It’s strictly based on being out-worked; it’s strictly based on missing crucial opportunities. I say all the time if you stay ready, you ain’t gotta get ready.”

With that kind of philosophy, it is little surprise Smith was ranked by Forbes as the “most bankable star” in the world. Moreover, according to Fantasy Moguls, Will Smith is the only actor who has had eight CONSECUTIVE films gross over $100 million domestically and eleven CONSECUTIVE films over $150 million internationally. Luck? Hardly. We get the results we earn.

Rick Pitino once said, “Never let anyone out work you or out hustle you. Ever.” Pitino is the only men’s basketball coach in history to lead two universities to a NCAA Championship. He is also the only coach to lead three different universities to a Final Four in four different decades.  A coincidence? Try again. The seeds we plant today bloom tomorrow.

Woody Hayes, head football coach at Ohio State from 1951–1978 once said, “They may outsmart me, or be luckier, but they can’t outwork me.” Hayes won 5 national championships at Ohio State in 1954, 1957, 1961, 1968, and in 1970. Fluke? Not a chance. Exceptional achievements require an exceptional work ethic, only one other man in history has been better than Hayes. Coach Bear Bryant…He reached 6 national championships at his time in Alabama. Once again, the theme is clear, he was quoted as saying,  “I’m no miracle man. I guarantee nothing but hard work” and “There’s a lot of blood, sweat, and guts between dreams and success.”

There is no excuse for laziness, apathy, good enough, complacency or even contentment when an individual has aspirations that surpass the bare minimum. 

Justifying Losing

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“Winners and losers are self-determined. But only the winners are willing to admit it.” – John Wooden 

John Wooden, the man above won ten national championships in twelve years at UCLA. An extraordinary accomplishment that falls on the deaf ears of the blue blooded sophisticates and is too quickly dismissed because the achievement occurred on the hardwood and not within the confines of Wall Street or the ivory towers of the academy. I see it every day with corporate clients, they shelve the philosophies of individuals like Wooden, Saban, Lombardi, and Coach K who have “DONE IT” and dismiss them as “meatheads” then bow to the advice and wisdom of so called sages that sit in a quaint office and write theory on how to lead. These so called “sages”scribe theories because they are unable to write “experiences.” Call me a simpleton, but I’ll place my leadership bets on an individual who has done it (and failed) over the one that can wax eloquently on a topic and has mastered the art of grammar.

Both winners and losers are at the mercy of self-determination….  it is an irrefutable law.

Friedrich Nietzsche, another one of those “did more thinking than doing” guys, stated “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.”  Despite the veracity of Nietzsche’s now famous quip, the probability of experiencing anything that affords us this opportunity to experience the positive outcomes of near-death experiences don’t readily present themselves unless we artificially push ourselves to determine what is possible and flirt with our own unprecedented limits. Who does this? The one-percenters and world class do and they do so habitually.

Like it or not, one of the overarching characteristics of the world class is their incessant and insatiable drive for perfection. We fully comprehend the irrationality of absolute perfection, the world class pursue it anyway. Flawless execution requires a committed compulsion; a price that only a small number of individuals are willing to pay. It is the reason the top 1% in music, sports, business, politics, and in life are called the “one percenters.”  Our desires, our visions, dictate our daily habits and we calibrate our expectations accordingly. No wonder, Jerry Rice said, “Today I will do what others will not do so tomorrow I can do what others cannot do.”

Good and bad decisions, high and low standards, lofty or dismal expectations, healthy, unhealthy, disciplined or undisciplined…Every one of these small decisions require a price and generate a consequence. The simple question is not whether you will pay a price, it is simply just a matter of when.